Your kids should not be the most important

Discuss

1. Do you sometimes lack energy?

2. Would you like to have a bit more personal status than you have? Do you feel people respect you enough?

3. Are you a clumsy person? Do you often fumble with things?

4. What is the opposite of "emancipate"?

5. all + be + it = albeit (what could this word mean??)

6. What exercises do you do to strengthen your back muscles?

7. Which colours appeal to you most when it comes to clothing?

Use the words in a sentence

lack      

status     

advantage     

fumble    

manufacture   

appeals    

thrive    

albeit   

emancipated

objective    

Unbeknownst     

strengthened    

entitled    

I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, “Who are the most important people in your family?”

Like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they answered, “Our kids!”

“Why?” I then asked. “What is it about your kids that gives them that status?” And like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they couldn’t answer the question other than to ______ with ______ to emotion.

So, I answered the question for them: “There is no reasonable thing that gives your children that _____.”

I went on to point out that many if not most of the problems they’re having with their kids — typical stuff, these days — are the result of treating their children as if they, their marriage, and their family exist because of the kids when it is, in fact, the other way around. Their kids exist because of them and their marriage and  ____ because they have created a stable family.

Furthermore, without them, their kids wouldn’t eat well, have the nice clothing they wear, live in the nice home in which they live, enjoy the great vacations they enjoy, and so on. Instead of lives that are relatively carefree (despite the drama to the contrary that they occasionally ______), their children would be living lives full of worry and want.

This issue is really the heart of the matter. People my age know it’s the heart of the matter because when we were kids it was clear to us that our parents were the most important people in our families. And that, right there, is why we respected our parents and that, right there, is why we looked up to adults in general. Yes, Virginia, once upon a time in the United States of America, children were second-class citizens, to their ______.

It was also clear to us — I speak, of course, in general terms, _____ accurate — that our parents’ marriages were more important to them than their relationships with us. Therefore, we did not sleep in their beds or interrupt their conversations. The family meal, at home, was regarded as more important than after-school activities. Mom and Dad talked more — a lot more — with one another than they talked with you. For ____ of pedestals, we  ______ earlier and much more successfully than have children since.

The most important person in an army is the general. The most important person in a corporation is the CEO. The most important person in a classroom is the teacher. And the most important person in a family are the parents.

The most important thing about children is the need to prepare them properly for responsible citizenship. The primary ______ should not be raising a straight-A student who excels at three sports, earns a spot on the Olympic swim team, goes to an A-list university and becomes a prominent brain surgeon. The primary objective is to raise a child such that community and culture are _____.

“Our child is the most important person in our family” is the first step toward raising a child who feels _____.

You don’t want that. ______ to your child, he doesn’t need that.

Do you agree with the writer?