Sunday, March 15, 2026

The Perfectionist Trap



Discuss

 

1. Are you a perfectionist? What kinds of things do you like to be perfect at? 

2. Are you an ambitious person? What are you ambitious about?

3. Are you sometimes hard on yourself? Give an example of how you might be hard on yourself.

4. "One of the greatest obstacles to a good life is the expectation of perfection."

Do you agree?

5. Have you thought a lot about what you really want to be?

In an ideal world, what would be be?

6. Do you feel limited by "reality"?

 

 

Language used:

 

prac______r

someone who practices a learned profession

intre___d

fearless

accl_____ed

publicly praised

be_____th

under

to s____k

cause, stimulate

med______y

the state of being average or unremarkable

p________x

a contradiction or dilemma

to ig______

to set on fire

cong______

existing at birth

ine____tude

incompetence

t____p

something that we can be caught or stuck in

to at_____n

to achieve

cur____ed

carefully selected

d___ft                                         

 a first attempt at a complex piece of work

s____e                                          

mentally healthy

to em____e

to copy, to imitate

a______y

agonizing physical or mental pain

to w____p

to cry

 



Vocabulary Quiz:

24 terms




For notes and later discussion:

We f________ate our ambitions by....
We form our career plans on the b____s of....
We end up the l_____t able to....
Our media ed___s out....
It starts to a_____r as though....
Our p_________n is imbalanced because.....
We should f_____s on....
We need to re______ise the legitimate and necessary....
Allow o_______s to do things quite....

 

 

Language focus: expressive adverbs

 

What do these words mean?  Try to define them in your own words?

 

markedly

imperfectly

absurdly

largely

typically

deeply

actually

primarily

closely

 

Listen for them in the clip and write them in the order you hear them.











Check





typically
deeply
markedly
absurdly
actually
primarily
largely
closely
imperfectly













The Work-Life Balance

Image result for fulfilling career high salary work life balance gif


Discuss the gif







Prelearn vocab:

20 terms and expressions

Watch:

Work-Life Balance

Discuss:

Are you a generalist or a specialist? (Do you like to get really really good at one thing, or be good enough at lots of things?)

Do you know a person who is a specialist?

Match these verb / noun collocations

write
spear
sit
stay
live
plot
expand
drive
go into

in an ice cave
a fish
in a high rise office
an assassination
very fast down Fifth Avenue
a small business
politics
a novel
single

Grammar point: which of these verbs are transitive and which are intransitive?


Multiple choice questions:

1. According to the speaker. a human is less efficient than a sports car because
A) humans have less clear goals than a sports car
B) sports cars are designed for speed
C) humans are not designed well

2. According to the speaker
A) humans should try to limit their goals in order to be more efficient.
B) by limiting our focus, we increase our chances of efficiency
C) optimal efficiency is a general principle in designing machines

3. According ot the speaker, our brains
A) are moderately intelligent
B) tend to generalise
C) are good at many different things

4. According to the speaker, we
A) pay a price for focussing too much on one thing
B) can't be perfect at everything
C) can't be too general in our focus

5. The reason for our mistakes and failures is that
A) variety matters more than perfection
B) our narrow perfection
C) there's a cost to being the human equivalent of a sports car

6. According to the speaker, work-life balance
A) is elusive
B) is worth fighting for
C) is impossible

7. According to the speaker, feeling that life is chaotic
A) is a healthy sign
B) is a bad sign
C) is a sign that your life has gone wrong




This is the Audi R8; it's a highly efficient and compelling car; its engine produces an astonishing 199 kW at 6,500 rpm, and a torque of 330 Nm at 4000 rpm.

Now part of the reason that it's so efficient, and part of what makes us human beings comparatively inefficient, is that this car has only one goal, and that goal is exceptionally clear: it has to go very fast down tarmac roads.

As a general principle, no machine can be optimally efficient at more than one thing.
A robot that has to both climb stairs, and make pancakes will be far less efficient
than two distinct machines, each of which can focus exclusively on a single task.
The more limited the goals, the higher ones chances efficiency.

Now, unlike the Audi sports car, our brains are not designed or evolved to be maximally efficient at any one thing. This amazing cognitive and emotional machine is a profound generalist it comes moderately well equipped for a huge range of possible activities:
to write a novel, spearfish, bring up a child, drive very fast Fifth Avenue, sit in a high-rise office writing reports, lie in a hut in New Guinea, marry, plot an assassination, live in an ice cave, go into politics, stay single, or expand a small business into the Asia market.

Now the price we pay for being generalists is that we'll be less good at any one of the many activities we perform than someone who did only one thing their whole life long.
We might not be the very best at inflating party balloons, the house will be a bit dirty,
we might be a bit late for the meeting, we'll not be perfect, patient, and interesting dinner companions, we'll mess up the public presentation again, someone will probably be better than we are at helping a child to paint.

This might be quite depressing moments, perhaps late at night as we look back across the day, but before we get too sad, we should realize that our less than completely optimal performance is down to one very understandable thing: that we've chosen breadth and variety over total focus and narrow perfection, and that's a very wise choice. Focusing on one thing to the exclusion of all others has its costs as anyone who's ever spoken to an athlete who trains 10 hours a day tends to find out.

There's a cost to being the human equivalent to the sports car.

Unfortunately, our society has set up an absurd idea: that it will be possible to do many things and do them all completely well. That's why we hear so much talk about an elusive thing called: "work-life balance". Perfectly optimal career and a perfectly optimal home life.

This is a mad idea!

Work-life balance is impossible because everything worth fighting for unbalances your life. We're not going to be at once the ideal domestic chef, child carer, and CEO.
If we're strung out across multiple roles, all will suffer, but that's okay.

That you're doing too much and none of it without mistakes isn't a sign that your life has gone wrong, it's a sign of a very wise and understandable position: that you've opted for imperfect variety over flawless focus.

 

 

Multiple choice questions:

 

1. According to the speaker. a human is less efficient than a sports car because

A) humans have less clear goals than a sports car

B) sports cars are designed for speed

C) humans are not designed well

 

2. According to the speaker

A) humans should try to limit their goals in order to be more efficient.

B) by limiting our focus, we increase our chances of efficiency

C) optimal efficiency is a general principle in designing machines

 

3. According ot the speaker, our brains

A) are moderately intelligent

B) tend to generalise

C) are good at many different things

 

4. According to the speaker, we

A) pay a price for focussing too much on one thing

B) can't be perfect at everything

C) can't be too general in our focus

 

5. The reason for our mistakes and failures is that

A) variety matters more than perfection

B) our narrow perfection

C) there's a cost to being the human equivalent of a sports car

 

6. According to the speaker, work-life balance

A) is elusive

B) is worth fighting for

C) is impossible

 

7. According to the speaker, feeling that life is chaotic

A) is a healthy sign

B) is a bad sign

C) is a sign that your life has gone wrong

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Language focus

 

What's the scrambled word?

 

a general piplerinc

a single skta

a wise coihce

an absurd iead

an elusive tnghi

multiple srleo

flawless ufocs

 

Follow each verb with a likely object

 

explore a _____________

investigate a _____________

retrieve a _____________

complete a _____________

verify a _____________

supervise a _____________

consider a _____________

sustain a _____________

 

 

 


Listen out for these adverb + adjective collocations:



H____ly efficient
c_______ly inefficient
e________ly clear
o______ly efficient
f__ l____ efficient
m_______ly efficient
m_______ly w___ equipped
l__ than c______ly o_______l performance
p_____ly optimal

 

 

Discussion

 



General questions - discuss what you heard.

1. Why is a human less efficient than a sports car?

2. What's easiest way to increase efficiency?

3. What is the brain designed to do?

4. What is the price we pay for being generalists?

5. Why do we sometimes feel depressed at the end of the day?

6. What is the cost of focusing on one thing to the exclusion of all others?

7. Why is work-life balance impossible?



Unfortunately

highly

so

exceptionally

optimally

completely

exclusively

moderately

probably

without mistakes

maximally

perfectly

less

at once

only 

very

very

well


 

 

Listen and add the adverbs where you hear them

 

This is the Audi R8; it's a (1) ________ efficient and compelling car; its engine produces an astonishing 199 kW at 6,500 rpm, and a torque of 330 Nm at 4000 rpm.

Now part of the reason that it's (2) _______ efficient, and part of what makes us human beings comparatively inefficient, is that this car has (3) ________ one goal, and that goal is (4) __________ clear: it has to go (5) _________ fast down tarmac roads.

As a general principle, no machine can be (6) ___________ efficient at more than one thing. A robot that has to both climb stairs and make pancakes will be far less efficient than two distinct machines, each of which can focus (7) __________ on a single task. The more limited the goals, the higher one’s chances efficiency.

Now, unlike the Audi sports car, our brains are not designed or evolved to be (8) __________ efficient at any one thing. This amazing cognitive and emotional machine is a profound generalist; it comes (9) ___________ well equipped for a huge range of possible activities: to write a novel, spearfish, bring up a child, drive very fast Fifth Avenue, sit in a high-rise office writing reports, lie in a hut in New Guinea, marry, plot an assassination, live in an ice cave, go into politics, stay single, or expand a small business into the Asia market.

Now the price we pay for being generalists is that we'll be (10) _________ good at any one of the many activities we perform than someone who did only one thing their whole life long. We might not be the (11) _________ best at inflating party balloons, the house will be a bit dirty, we might be a bit late for the meeting, we'll not be perfect, patient, and interesting dinner companions, we'll mess up the public presentation again, someone will (12) __________ be better than we are at helping a child to paint.

This might be quite depressing moments, perhaps late at night as we look back across the day, but before we get too sad, we should realize that our less than (13) _________ optimal performance is down to one very understandable thing: that we've chosen breadth and variety over total focus and narrow perfection, and that's a very wise choice. Focusing on one thing to the exclusion of all others has its costs as anyone who's ever spoken to an athlete who trains 10 hours a day tends to find out.

There's a cost to being the human equivalent to the sports car.

(14) ___________, our society has set up an absurd idea: that it will be possible to do many things and do them all completely (15) _________. That's why we hear so much talk about an elusive thing called: "work-life balance". A (16) ________ optimal career and a perfectly optimal home life.

This is a mad idea!

Work-life balance is impossible because everything worth fighting for unbalances your life. We're not going to be (17) _________ the ideal domestic chef, child carer, and CEO. If we're strung out across multiple roles, all will suffer, but that's okay.

That you're doing too much and none of it (18) ___________ isn't a sign that your life has gone wrong, it's a sign of a very wise and understandable position: that you've opted for imperfect variety over flawless focus.

 

Language focus: building flexibility and expanding vocabulary range


 Exploring adverbs

What adjective might follow these adverbs?

undeniably
elegantly
profoundly
excessively
weirdly
lovingly
tightly


What do all of these adverbs have in common?

  1. briskly
  2. gradually
  3. hastily
  4. hurriedly
  5. immediately
  6. instantly
  7. promptly
  8. quickly
  9. rapidly
  10. slowly
  11. speedily
  12. swiftly

And these?

  1. audibly
  2. deafeningly
  3. ear-splittingly
  4. faintly
  5. loudly
  6. noiselessly
  7. noisily
  8. quietly
  9. silently
  10. softly
  11. soundlessly
  12. thunderously

And these?

  1. daily
  2. eventually
  3. finally
  4. frequently
  5. generally
  6. hourly
  7. rarely
  8. regularly
  9. seldom
  10. soon


She spoke

She wept

She walked

She laughed

She stumbled

She squeezed my hand

She stood up

She looked around

She whispered


 


1.     accidentally

2.     awkwardly

3.     blindly

4.     crazily

5.     cruelly

6.     defiantly

7.     deliberately

8.     doubtfully

9.     dramatically

10.                        excitedly

11.                        mysteriously

12.                        nervously

13.                        seriously

14.                        solemnly

15.                        unexpectedly

16.                        wildly


 

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Conversation in A/B Pairs

A

  1. Have you ever accidentally sent a message or email to the wrong person? What happened?

  2. When was the last time you felt awkwardly silent in a conversation? What made the situation uncomfortable?

  3. Do you think people sometimes follow trends blindly? Can you give an example?

  4. What is the most crazily spontaneous thing you have ever done?

  5. Why do you think some people speak cruelly to others online? How can this problem be reduced?


B

  1. Have you ever deliberately ignored someone’s message or call? Why did you do it?

  2. When was the last time you excitedly told someone some good news? What was it about?

  3. Can you describe a time when you nervously waited for an important result or decision?

  4. Has anything good ever happened to you unexpectedly? What was the situation?

  5. When do you think people should seriously think about changing their lifestyle or habits?



Is each adverb more likely to be used with a verb or an adjective?

totally
suddenly
swiftly
extremely


Which of these adverbs would usually be used to modify a whole sentence?

unfortunately
somewhat
most of the time
afterwards
on the whole
genuinely
delicately
wrongly
mind you
sweetly










Saturday, March 14, 2026

Similes and metaphors

 


Quiz for similes


Similes versus metaphors


The art of metaphors

The Backwards Brain Bicycle


Before watching:

Vocab:

12 collocations

Do you agree or disagree?
1. “You can’t forget how to ride a bike.”
2. “The faster you ride a bike, the more control you gain”
3. “Knowledge = understanding”
4. “Sometimes you can’t change the way you think, even if you want to.”

Try separating these into different words or phrases:
backstorywelderdemonstrateconquerattemptfrustratedrevelationinarutuncoordinatedalgorithmdefinitivestatementpowerthroughpeddlepathwaybrainpaycloseattentionsmalldistractiongeneticallyneuralplasticityunlearnsetouttoprovecognitivebiasredesignaterigidclickbackintofakeitarticulate


T / F

T / F

 

1. "Just like riding a bike" means "impossible to forget how to do". 

2. Dustin only recently learned how to ride a bike. 

3. The engineers changed two things on the backwards bicycle.

4. Dustin thought it would be easy to ride the backwards bicycle. 

5. Dustin thing understanding and knowledge are the same thing.

6. Only one person managed to win the money.

7. Dustin had only one accident when he was learning to ride the backwards bicycle.

8. Dustin's son was able to learn how to ride the backwards bicycle faster than Dustin.

9. Amsterdam has more people than bicycles.

10. Dustin no longer knows how to ride a normal bicycle.

11. Dustin is from Amsterdam

12. Dustin learns to ride the normal bicycle after thirty minutes. 

13. Dusting thinks we need to know that our brains can easily get into habits.




Watch:

The Backwards Brain Cycle


 

B_ckstory
w_lder
dem_nstrate
con_uer
attem_t
frustr_ted
rev_lation
in a r_t
unc_ordinated
alg_rithm
defin_tive statement
power throu_h peddle
pathwa_
br_in
pay close att_ntion 
small d_straction
gen_tically
neur_l plasticity
u_learn
set out to p_ove
cogn_tive bias
r_designate
rig_d
cl_ck back into
f_ke it
artic_late



backstory
welder
demonstrate
conquer
attempt
frustrated
revelation
in a rut
uncoordinated
algorithm
definitive statement
power through peddle
pathway
brain
pay close attention 
small distraction
genetically
neural plasticity
unlearn
set out to prove
cognitive bias
redesignate
rigid
click back into
fake it
articulate